life's never what you expect it to be...too many memories some of which are to painful to reveal others to disappointing to even think of others so good i rethink them over and over ...but you know what i learnt...that we should bury the past before it buries us...sounds stupid i know but re read it and tell me its stupid...
how many times have you heard someone saying if i could only have this life would be so much better...if i could only find the purpose to my life ...everything would be easy...i just cant find what makes me happy....fuck!!!!i hate that shit!!!think about it we are always happy until we see somebody else's something then you like naaaah!!!you feel bad...but coz as cliché as it is i always believe everything happens for a reason...there's a reason you going through that shit..God does not make fools of us he puts as through stuff he knows you can deal with...i always find it really spicy standing in the threshold of the un known..we are so convinced that life should be lived in a specific way that we forget to enjoy the plain and lovely things in life..we are so convinced that if we could only have a certain thing would be better for you....look at you really....it does not make a difference work with what you have got instead of thinking what you should be having.....it starts with baby steps don't kid yourself youl make it if you don't sweat!!!have you not heard of easy come easy go.....just because you want it does not mean that mean you deserve it....
i think we complicate alot of things in life..look at this you lie to your friend then you have to lie again to cover it up and the chain continues why coz you do not want to deal with the truth which you think may be too painful to deal with...or lets see you do not want to disappoint them ...or your trying to protect them....who are you kidding...you do that then after sometime youl have lonely feeling creeping in and then clever you...you will bury those feelings and try to be fine yah...then you wonder y you are feeling empty...the more you avoid the truth..you avoid yourself then youl avoid the people you love...then youl find life sucks but truth is ..our lives are governed by our relationships if there bad then you find life sad and vice versa...
how many times cant we get it into our heads that just because someone else thinks you do not deserve it or you cant make it or you can ever do what you really want to do you wont.....i was told i was not going to be able to do many things...play hockey..swim...i was told i would never make an activist...never be able to do human rights..never be able to do half the shit i have done some of my friends always said i was lying about things i did or was doing?but you know what i always told myself.....i do not need to justify anything to anyone but myself and GOD!!!SO then why do we care what people think...or there opinions of us...what do you believe in and what are you going to do to achieve it....that does not involve anyone....but you!!!
dream deep..wildly and work to attain that.....to dream is not the phantom of our imagination but the outline of our destiny...think about it
always think of something you can do to fulfil your life and it does not have to be big...but just have meaning to you
one day when it was raining my cousin was like i hate rain...in my mind it was more than a rain shower...i looked outside and ..well the rain to me meant many things trials and pain but also hope and beauty...you can see the rain or you can look at all the beautiful flowers that emerge coz of it.
the nature of the mind is like water if you do not disturb it it remains clear...think about it...
WHATS the point of having your own brain if your going to be guided by other peoples thoughts and convictions
Its not about crips, not about the money, not about beauty, its about the L word
Its funny how in class one and nursery our friendship was based on lunch and break
The parameters of our love was based on who we share our break with
Who we allow to eat our crisps, and that was love for us, little beings
Of little minds
And so our boyfriends, girlfriends were those who had the most breaks and nyamabite, those who had the most toys, those who did not beat us perhaps
Then we graduate to the next level where love was determined by beauty
Shaped by desires that we felt to boys, to girls with beauty
So at this point we choose those who we want to write us letters and we respond,
We choose those who will walk us home
We choose those who will buy us gift over valentines based on how they look
In my high school they were point fives, the biracial,
And then later came the tall dark and handsome combination for the men and some shed of yellow for the women became fashionable
Now if you had this uko juu
Then at the college level the intellect counts so it became all about intellect, where they guys want challenge and the woman want a guy with a promising future.
Then suddenly men want women who can cook, wololo
Women want men who got money ayayaya
The cycle gets complex and more complex
The rules get harder and tougher
Ni kubaya jo
Then you reach a point and you are like wait a minute
After all these then what, so I have a man who drives but at the end of the day treats me like crap
So I have the hottest guy in school who dating me but he’s mine and ten others as well
So I have these guy who is mine but am begging for a minute of his day cause he likes my booty but bored to death by my conversations
So I have this girl who embarrasses me in front of my boys but I got to be with her coz she’s the hottest ever
Then after all the dramatic moments you realize ala
It’s not about the above things anymore
Lol, its not about crisps, its not about beauty, it’s not about money
Its about the L word, Love
You learn it later when you realize you were left for some one you thought not pretty enough to be competition
You were being dramatic she was being nice
When as a guy you got all the money in the world but she don’t love
You, not even a hint
You were flaunting your money someone else was listening to her
When you feel hottest and you are still cheated on, you are dumped or even miss a date to a function
Then you realize, Kumbe, Its all about love
Hence the mismatch in couples
They don’t look cute together at all, by all sense of the word. So?
Their hearts beat to the same tune
So now we won’t ask
What he saw in her
or what she on earth saw in him
We’ll just sit calmly though internally shocked
But we’ll know its love
So we will accept it as it
Mysterious, strange, but definitely beauttiful
Amen by Catherine Irura
When i close my eyes, i believe. I believe that my blind eyes will see, and i feel strongly in my heart that it is finished, it wont be dark when i say amen. But even if it is i still cleave at His feet that one day i`ll see the green grass in my brown eyes..and they will be kissed by the yellow sun...i will see faith in seeds..i`ll say amen and see love in smiles and eyes..and comfort in words..i will see my dreams.. and my dreamers..and the change i have believed..and so i`ll say amen, amen and amen..next sunday, next summer, next year.. Cause i believe He can heal..
A Question asked by Esther Neema
A little girl asked me this question when we were sitted
What really is love, how does it happen
I looked in to her innocent eyes and for once
I didnt have one answer, because love I learnt
is not a feeling that you feel that you have never felt before
So I told her,gal, when time comes and you have to give love,
give like you never have before
when time comes and you have to cry because of love,
cry but never give up on love
Love, love and love
Its not a promise that you will be loved back in return
you may give and it never comes back
you just have to know love is a risk
In life there are three things you must do
Live, love and laugh
A time will come and it will rain
btu dont stop dancing,
you learn to dance in the rain
You will be dissapointed, yes
But its love when you know the one you love is not perftect
but you love them anyway
In time you will know that the beauty of love is when it is shared
when you make him laugh and he makes you laugh
when you think of him and you know he is thinking of you too
It saks wen you love him and he dont
You will know that you are not in control
when they choose to leave
you will let them go
N no your feeling will not switch off whenever
but when it hurts so bad,
know that time is the healer of wounds
Never give up on love for one day you will fall in love again
Most of all, you must know that in love there are no rules
No formulaes that always work
You learn to wear jackest when it rains and dance
U learn that in love there is no such vocabulary a difference.
So really know your timing girl
when time comes you will find it
Dont love when you are supposed to grow
so that when time to love comes you are
still growing coz you never grew
when it comes you will know it
trust me you wont have to ask,
you will know.
I will sit Here by Empress mo
i will speak to all the wonderful women in my life...
only they know what it means..
when your daddy dint kiss you on the forehead when you went to school...
and how it felt when he shouted at mommy...for nothing.
only they can understand how hard it is to trust another man...
so i will sit here next to my heart and speak to it like a daughter!
only they can see th pain of trying to leave a man who has killed your esteem...
your vision..your dream..killed you!
but he grasps so tightly to your heart that it pounds slower and slower and slower and slower....
only they can understand the confusion...
that comes when you hear i deep voice in a room!
that voice that shakes up your sensible being...
and you ell yourself .."i will sit here" until the voice fades..
only my gal friends can understand the trauma of a mean brother..
when my sibling smacked me when we were juvenile
and now in my prime years..he smacks me with angry words..
and he tries to control this independent woman in me!
and i fear loving my brother...will he love me back just as much...?
and so i will sit here..i will not run after that man...that father that brother...that man...
i will sit here and share with my gal friends
and let them understand how much i want to love my father,
how much i wan to laugh with my brother,
how much i wan to trust another man....
i will sit here and let THE MAN...love me first...i will sit here with GOD...i will sit here
Give time to your Love
You can make more money, but you can’t make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you will never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.
It is not enough just to say relationships are important, we must prove it by investing time in them. Words alone are worthless.
Relationships take time and effort and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E.
The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others but how much we give of ourselves .
Men in particular often don’t understand this. Many have said .. “ I don’t understand my wife and kids. I provide everything they need. What more could they want?” They want you. Your eyes, your ears, your time ,your attention, your presence, your focus-your time. Nothing can take the place of that.
The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate.
It is focused attention. Love concentrates so intently on another that you forget yourself at that moment .Attention says I value you enough to give you my most precious asset-my time. Whenever you give your time you are making a sacrifice and sacrifice is the essence of love. Jesus modelled this.
You can give without loving but you cannot love without giving.
Love means giving up-yielding my preferences. ,comfort, goals, security, money, energy, or time for the benefit of someone else.
The best time to love is now.
Sometimes procrastination is a legitimate response to a trivial task. But because love is what matters most, it takes top priority
Why is now the best time to express love? Because you don’t know how long you will have the opportunity. Circumstances change. People die. Children grow up. You have no guarantee of tomorrow .If you want to express love, you had better do it now..
Knowing that one day you will stand before God here are some questions you need to consider.
How will you explain those times when projects or things were more important to you than people?
Who do you need to start spending more time with ?
What do you need to cut out of your schedule to make that possible?
What sacrifices do you need to make?
The best use of life is love. The best expression of love is time. The best time to love is now.
I didn't make this up hell no.....,It was extracted from The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren.
In this race of life
He realy wants to catch you wen u fall.hold u close wen a tear drops from ur eye.he realy wants to say sth to you that meks you smile.hes tryin hard to understand you,get to hear the whispers in ur head.he's tryn 2listen to your needs,jst to find a way to make ur wish come true.no matter how much he tries,its not good enough.the closer he gets the colder you become.your wall gets taller n harder,n u walk wit ths mask to disguise you.deep inside ur scared,ur nt realy macho,ur weak inside.many of the words u say,r nt wat u mean.its safer for you to thnk than to feel.theres got to be logic in everythng.he doesnt meet all your conditions,but you love hm.y nt let hm be part of ur life.u cld be better wen ur nt bitter.u let unforgivnes be a crown on ur head.u fence urself wit grief n complains that people fear being next to you.u cld be a magnet that pulls ppl towards u.u cld be beta if u alowd ppl closer without burning them wen theyr close,putting them down,making them feel inadequate,incompetent.ur great woman n a strong warrior will not make you weaker.hel just compliment u.its nt a battle of the sexes.its life.ths does nt mean that u let people who'l ruin you close,but you dnt assume evry1 has a gun n theyl shoot.
Men arent dogs, they dont have fur: by Esther Neema
I went to this wedding, and i saw this gorgeous lady
the kinds that captivate you
her hands high with sophistication, as she danced elegantly
and i watched her closely, shes a granny with it
But i watched her closely again, and wondered, perhaps?
maybe did she want to probably have babies of her own?
Did She probably want to grow old with someone
Then I was told her story,once upon a time she loved deeply................
and well i ges, it was a not so happy ending..................
and i ges, she swore to close the door to her heart
and build a very big wall
Her story reminded me of someone I know
maybe not just someone, people
and maybe even me
Many who wake up soaked in tears,
hopelessly waiting for the one they love or loved to discovers what a treasure they are
Refusing to move from a past, in the hope that a past revives,
or the past changes.and its funny stories are so similar
thats how we are all the same
So shes turned down another proposal
I cant advice, coz even i dont know if the risk of love is worth taking
havent been good at taking those risks
I know some of as have been victims of other peoples stories
Like your aunts, friends, mums story, probably scared the hell out of you
But some of us have been victims of our own stories
And maybe not once but a number of times
until all the fallacies become truths in our world
But maybe, just maybe the risk is worth taking
Maybe your heart can recover its old glory and give again
i cant say am a living testimony but maybe
and since there is a possibility, then is it good to take it?
in ten years many of us will be mums
and we will have to tell our daughters stories
and maybe if we don't get past the anger, the pain, the hurt and betrayal
we will tell them sad stories, stories that will make them bitter even before someone breaks their heart
Stories that will make them break up with people even before they are broken up with
coz aunty christine said, if he behaves like this, he will leave
True, i know there are some nasty pips
But that dont mean every other good guy needs to pay for that one nasty guy in ur life
or some uncle patrick who died 20 years ago
I know some really nasty women too, who probably drove the guy who drove you nuts crazy
Dramatic, they take drama to another level
we cant call men dogs, though some cheat or maybe enough cheat,coz dogs have fur, and haven't seen that on my dad, my brother, my uncles, grandfather and definitely not my friends
i am really trying to be positive, I know some facts i said have turned against me
But my mum tought me one thing
let him love you first
let him look in to everything that made you, you
let him wait until your heart is ready
and if he waits long enough to know you, then he can win your heart
thats where I came up with the policy, you can not be my lover if you are not my friend
then there is a chance
in as much as we wont want to believe
someone who loves you, wont cause you so much pain
someone who loves you should leave you better than he found you
But if you wake up every morning soaked in tears and clouded in pain
and your not even married.
Or when you are an option and to you he is a priority
really
hes making you a stalker, calling him with hidden id
really.if he really wants to call you, he will
Someone quoted" the one who is worth your tears wont make you cry"
and that means, if your hurt by the same person repeatatively
and then you wait for him to call for days and nights and even months until when he feels convenient, think deeply
Even we, havent always been victims, sometimes we have destroyed homes we could have build
we have humiliated people who loved us and could have loved in return
its a crazy world, and one would always love to blame the other, but in real sense
when you do your part, you know how blameless you are, because you did you best
For those with those lovely sweet relationships that we all say aaaaaaaaaaaaw,
dream, plan for you wedding and make it happen
Dont live your life in the stories of others.
remember "love is giving someone the power to destroy you, but trusting them not to"
Those who live in a past, a friend of mine said and it helped me move
"the best thing about the past is that you learn from it, but it also has
the tendancy to pop in ur present and distort you vision of the future,
so when it happens, ensure that you remind it of where it should be, in the past"Timo.
i am not saying that they wont hurt when you give them a chance
they may just hurt you again, but there is the possibility too of them not hurting you too
So give them a chance, if there one thing that is beautiful, is a man in love
And love itself is a beautiful thing when shared
and when its not there learn to" walk away with your dignity still intact"
And when someone gives all they have to you, learn to give it back, and when you cant
be sure to tell them in the kindest way possible.you never know when you will love
someone who doesnt love you back
So in real sense, maybe men are not dogs, they dont have fur
What is Real Success?by: Tim Conner
I am coming to believe that success is not more material wealth, but peace, happiness, contentment, and love.
Most of all love.
Everyone wants success, and yet they often
don't know when they have it.
Real success is not to be sought after in the outer world, but discovered in your inner world. I am not condemning the stuff of life. We all want the things that life offers.
But we don't need as much as we think we do.
Sooner or later you will discover that real success is friends, strangers,
and anyone who crosses our path.
It is kindness shared, support given and received, listening,
giving, and caring.
These will endure while your car rusts, your toys break, and you tire of the temporary gratifications that bring you what you think is real.
What matters is people.
What lasts is love.
What counts are true friends, and if you treasure these
you can count yourself a success.
For bad men: what a woman definately doesn't need
some men r ful of crap.look at ur woman,once was was woman woman,woman u want to have.do u like that woman.the woman u created bt ges wat,u dnt like tht woman.a woman wit a heart of stone,so cold learns how to fake feelings.a woman who wldnt cry 4u,she wld nt die 4u.the woman u wnt is kind loving generous a virgin,bt u hv bn defiling evry beautiful woman uc,undressing evry bootiful woman,n of course leaving them unceremoniously,or mekn them leave.so do u dserve a gd woman.u turn beauty in2beast.uc wat u dnt understand is the potential of a woman,wen she lovs u,she wld wnt nt just a minute of ur time,shed want u2call her,listen to her,nw ges wat,u choose 2call that clingy.u put a ring on her then u cheat on her,then u say she deserves it or a man has a gene 4cheating,waaaaat?crap right thea.uc y she let go is coz she trusts u,y she comes bak,is coz she loves u,bt nooo thts nt enuff,all u do is break her already broken soul,drag her on the floor,toss her up n down,n wen ur done,u say these gals r too bitter.so u create a new genre of species,she wld rather hv ur baby bt nt live with u.materialistic woman who loves ur cash bt nt u.the moment u 1st walked away,u created ths gal,then u dnt like her.the strength uwere 2protect her wit,u choose 2hit her.the same mouth u sed,i love u,u abuse her wit.do u blame her wen she doesnt trust u,u created her.her first tear,her fears begun.even she opened her heart 2u,told u her weakest spot,u used against her.u gave up on tht gal wit insecurities even wen u lovd her,then wat is love if ur nd is a perfect woman.hosea loved hs woman,n tho she was a whore he never walked out on her.3women at ago,dude u nd a hobby,get a life perhaps.ths woman nds u2cherish her.she nds u2c the beauty in her even wen its nt visible outside.if shes ur queen let her feel it.the same way u worked hard 2get her keep her,maintain her.listen,u could be a better man,just let that boy in u grow.just grow up,all these women r nt urs 2hv. U dnt hav 2destroy tht gold,just leave it at the mine.
Alas.Discover by Esther Neema
Your value as a woman does not come from the number of men you steal from other women. Your value as woman does not come from the number of men you keep pending waiting for your response because you cannot release them, what for?
It does not come when another woman spends sleepless nights and her children lack fees because you sleeping with her man in a luxurious hotel
So unfair
It does not come when you use a guy’s money and leave him when he is broke
Is it really worth it
I refuse to believe that women are each others enemies, though its a possibilty. I refuse to believe that we evil. I know within us lies a possibility of beautiful friendships. I choose to believe that the value of a woman is not defined by the ability to trap a man but let him fall in love
Girl, the reason why people hate you is not because you are beautiful and they are just jealous
Nay, eye opener, it is because of the attitude, the malice, and your failure to respect, it’s the selfishness that you know that is another woman’s man but you live to replace her
when you avail yourself to nurse the heart of another woman’s man, when you meet the needs the wife does not meet. Do you really not know what you are doing; of course you know what you are doing
Yes you may have been undressed, yes you may have been wounded but it doesn’t hurt to redefine yourself, you can be tagged and branded a new.
The essence of being a woman is in the little things
The vessel of honor
It is in the lives we touch
The souls we give birth to
The essence of being a woman is in the magical smiles that warm a heart
The magical hands that turn houses in to homes
The magical hands that turns plain in to complex
We hurt yes, we cry, true, but we laugh a lot too
So yes there are things we compete for, attention and fashion but our needs are met too
We blossom but we fade too
Yes we are confident but we have our fears too
So before you trash another woman, before you judge another woman, replace another woman, beach about another woman coz she is divorced or ditched, just put yourself in their shoes and see if you could fit
Men arent dogs they dont have far
I went to this wedding, and i saw this gorgeous lady
the kinds that captivate you
her hands high with sophistication, as she danced elegantly
and i watched her closely, shes a granny with it
But i watched her closely again, and wondered, perhaps?
maybe did she want to probably have babies of her own?
Did She probably want to grow old with someone
Then I was told her story,once upon a time she loved deeply................
and well i ges, it was a not so happy ending..................
and i ges, she swore to close the door to her heart
and build a very big wall
Her story reminded me of someone I know
maybe not just someone, people
and maybe even me
Many who wake up soaked in tears,
hopelessly waiting for the one they love or loved to discovers what a treasure they are
Refusing to move from a past, in the hope that a past revives,
or the past changes.and its funny stories are so similar
thats how we are all the same
So shes turned down another proposal
I cant advice, coz even i dont know if the risk of love is worth taking
havent been good at taking those risks
I know some of as have been victims of other peoples stories
Like your aunts, friends, mums story, probably scared the hell out of you
But some of us have been victims of our own stories
And maybe not once but a number of times
until all the fallacies become truths in our world
But maybe, just maybe the risk is worth taking
Maybe your heart can recover its old glory and give again
i cant say am a living testimony but maybe
and since there is a possibility, then is it good to take it?
in ten years many of us will be mums
and we will have to tell our daughters stories
and maybe if we don't get past the anger, the pain, the hurt and betrayal
we will tell them sad stories, stories that will make them bitter even before someone breaks their heart
Stories that will make them break up with people even before they are broken up with
coz aunty christine said, if he behaves like this, he will leave
True, i know there are some nasty pips
But that dont mean every other good guy needs to pay for that one nasty guy in ur life
or some uncle patrick who died 20 years ago
I know some really nasty women too, who probably drove the guy who drove you nuts crazy
Dramatic, they take drama to another level
we cant call men dogs, though some cheat or maybe enough cheat,coz dogs have fur, and haven't seen that on my dad, my brother, my uncles, grandfather and definitely not my friends
i am really trying to be positive, I know some facts i said have turned against me
But my mum tought me one thing
let him love you first
let him look in to everything that made you, you
let him wait until your heart is ready
and if he waits long enough to know you, then he can win your heart
thats where I came up with the policy, you can not be my lover if you are not my friend
then there is a chance
in as much as we wont want to believe
someone who loves you, wont cause you so much pain
someone who loves you should leave you better than he found you
But if you wake up every morning soaked in tears and clouded in pain
and your not even married.
Or when you are an option and to you he is a priority
really
hes making you a stalker, calling him with hidden id
really.if he really wants to call you, he will
Someone quoted" the one who is worth your tears wont make you cry"
and that means, if your hurt by the same person repeatatively
and then you wait for him to call for days and nights and even months until when he feels convenient, think deeply
Even we, havent always been victims, sometimes we have destroyed homes we could have build
we have humiliated people who loved us and could have loved in return
its a crazy world, and one would always love to blame the other, but in real sense
when you do your part, you know how blameless you are, because you did you best
For those with those lovely sweet relationships that we all say aaaaaaaaaaaaw,
dream, plan for you wedding and make it happen
Dont live your life in the stories of others.
remember "love is giving someone the power to destroy you, but trusting them not to"
Those who live in a past, a friend of mine said and it helped me move
"the best thing about the past is that you learn from it, but it also has
the tendancy to pop in ur present and distort you vision of the future,
so when it happens, ensure that you remind it of where it should be, in the past"Timo.
i am not saying that they wont hurt when you give them a chance
they may just hurt you again, but there is the possibility too of them not hurting you too
So give them a chance, if there one thing that is beautiful, is a man in love
And love itself is a beautiful thing when shared
and when its not there learn to" walk away with your dignity still intact"
And when someone gives all they have to you, learn to give it back, and when you cant
be sure to tell them in the kindest way possible.you never know when you will love
someone who doesnt love you back
So in real sense, maybe men are not dogs, they dont have fur
some men r ful of crap.look at ur woman,once was was woman woman,woman u want to have.do u like that woman.the woman u created bt ges wat,u dnt like tht woman.a woman wit a heart of stone,so cold learns how to fake feelings.a woman who wldnt cry 4u,she wld nt die 4u.the woman u wnt is kind loving generous a virgin,bt u hv bn defiling evry beautiful woman uc,undressing evry bootiful woman,n of course leaving them unceremoniously,or mekn them leave.so do u dserve a gd woman.u turn beauty in2beast.uc wat u dnt understand is the potential of a woman,wen she lovs u,she wld wnt nt just a minute of ur time,shed want u2call her,listen to her,nw ges wat,u choose 2call that clingy.u put a ring on her then u cheat on her,then u say she deserves it or a man has a gene 4cheating,waaaaat?crap right thea.uc y she let go is coz she trusts u,y she comes bak,is coz she loves u,bt nooo thts nt enuff,all u do is break her already broken soul,drag her on the floor,toss her up n down,n wen ur done,u say these gals r too bitter.so u create a new genre of species,she wld rather hv ur baby bt nt live with u.materialistic woman who loves ur cash bt nt u.the moment u 1st walked away,u created ths gal,then u dnt like her.the strength uwere 2protect her wit,u choose 2hit her.the same mouth u sed,i love u,u abuse her wit.do u blame her wen she doesnt trust u,u created her.her first tear,her fears begun.even she opened her heart 2u,told u her weakest spot,u used against her.u gave up on tht gal wit insecurities even wen u lovd her,then wat is love if ur nd is a perfect woman.hosea loved hs woman,n tho she was a whore he never walked out on her.3women at ago,dude u nd a hobby,get a life perhaps.ths woman nds u2cherish her.she nds u2c the beauty in her even wen its nt visible outside.if shes ur queen let her feel it.the same way u worked hard 2get her keep her,maintain her.listen,u could be a better man,just let that boy in u grow.just grow up,all these women r nt urs 2hv. U dnt hav 2destroy tht gold,just leave it at the mine.
Alas.Discover by Esther Neema
Your value as a woman does not come from the number of men you steal from other women. Your value as woman does not come from the number of men you keep pending waiting for your response because you cannot release them, what for?
It does not come when another woman spends sleepless nights and her children lack fees because you sleeping with her man in a luxurious hotel
So unfair
It does not come when you use a guy’s money and leave him when he is broke
Is it really worth it
I refuse to believe that women are each others enemies, though its a possibilty. I refuse to believe that we evil. I know within us lies a possibility of beautiful friendships. I choose to believe that the value of a woman is not defined by the ability to trap a man but let him fall in love
Girl, the reason why people hate you is not because you are beautiful and they are just jealous
Nay, eye opener, it is because of the attitude, the malice, and your failure to respect, it’s the selfishness that you know that is another woman’s man but you live to replace her
when you avail yourself to nurse the heart of another woman’s man, when you meet the needs the wife does not meet. Do you really not know what you are doing; of course you know what you are doing
Yes you may have been undressed, yes you may have been wounded but it doesn’t hurt to redefine yourself, you can be tagged and branded a new.
The essence of being a woman is in the little things
The vessel of honor
It is in the lives we touch
The souls we give birth to
The essence of being a woman is in the magical smiles that warm a heart
The magical hands that turn houses in to homes
The magical hands that turns plain in to complex
We hurt yes, we cry, true, but we laugh a lot too
So yes there are things we compete for, attention and fashion but our needs are met too
We blossom but we fade too
Yes we are confident but we have our fears too
So before you trash another woman, before you judge another woman, replace another woman, beach about another woman coz she is divorced or ditched, just put yourself in their shoes and see if you could fit
Men arent dogs they dont have far
I went to this wedding, and i saw this gorgeous lady
the kinds that captivate you
her hands high with sophistication, as she danced elegantly
and i watched her closely, shes a granny with it
But i watched her closely again, and wondered, perhaps?
maybe did she want to probably have babies of her own?
Did She probably want to grow old with someone
Then I was told her story,once upon a time she loved deeply................
and well i ges, it was a not so happy ending..................
and i ges, she swore to close the door to her heart
and build a very big wall
Her story reminded me of someone I know
maybe not just someone, people
and maybe even me
Many who wake up soaked in tears,
hopelessly waiting for the one they love or loved to discovers what a treasure they are
Refusing to move from a past, in the hope that a past revives,
or the past changes.and its funny stories are so similar
thats how we are all the same
So shes turned down another proposal
I cant advice, coz even i dont know if the risk of love is worth taking
havent been good at taking those risks
I know some of as have been victims of other peoples stories
Like your aunts, friends, mums story, probably scared the hell out of you
But some of us have been victims of our own stories
And maybe not once but a number of times
until all the fallacies become truths in our world
But maybe, just maybe the risk is worth taking
Maybe your heart can recover its old glory and give again
i cant say am a living testimony but maybe
and since there is a possibility, then is it good to take it?
in ten years many of us will be mums
and we will have to tell our daughters stories
and maybe if we don't get past the anger, the pain, the hurt and betrayal
we will tell them sad stories, stories that will make them bitter even before someone breaks their heart
Stories that will make them break up with people even before they are broken up with
coz aunty christine said, if he behaves like this, he will leave
True, i know there are some nasty pips
But that dont mean every other good guy needs to pay for that one nasty guy in ur life
or some uncle patrick who died 20 years ago
I know some really nasty women too, who probably drove the guy who drove you nuts crazy
Dramatic, they take drama to another level
we cant call men dogs, though some cheat or maybe enough cheat,coz dogs have fur, and haven't seen that on my dad, my brother, my uncles, grandfather and definitely not my friends
i am really trying to be positive, I know some facts i said have turned against me
But my mum tought me one thing
let him love you first
let him look in to everything that made you, you
let him wait until your heart is ready
and if he waits long enough to know you, then he can win your heart
thats where I came up with the policy, you can not be my lover if you are not my friend
then there is a chance
in as much as we wont want to believe
someone who loves you, wont cause you so much pain
someone who loves you should leave you better than he found you
But if you wake up every morning soaked in tears and clouded in pain
and your not even married.
Or when you are an option and to you he is a priority
really
hes making you a stalker, calling him with hidden id
really.if he really wants to call you, he will
Someone quoted" the one who is worth your tears wont make you cry"
and that means, if your hurt by the same person repeatatively
and then you wait for him to call for days and nights and even months until when he feels convenient, think deeply
Even we, havent always been victims, sometimes we have destroyed homes we could have build
we have humiliated people who loved us and could have loved in return
its a crazy world, and one would always love to blame the other, but in real sense
when you do your part, you know how blameless you are, because you did you best
For those with those lovely sweet relationships that we all say aaaaaaaaaaaaw,
dream, plan for you wedding and make it happen
Dont live your life in the stories of others.
remember "love is giving someone the power to destroy you, but trusting them not to"
Those who live in a past, a friend of mine said and it helped me move
"the best thing about the past is that you learn from it, but it also has
the tendancy to pop in ur present and distort you vision of the future,
so when it happens, ensure that you remind it of where it should be, in the past"Timo.
i am not saying that they wont hurt when you give them a chance
they may just hurt you again, but there is the possibility too of them not hurting you too
So give them a chance, if there one thing that is beautiful, is a man in love
And love itself is a beautiful thing when shared
and when its not there learn to" walk away with your dignity still intact"
And when someone gives all they have to you, learn to give it back, and when you cant
be sure to tell them in the kindest way possible.you never know when you will love
someone who doesnt love you back
So in real sense, maybe men are not dogs, they dont have fur
